How Do You Want To Be Remembered?
As experienced coaches, we know how to bring out the best in our clients and how to support them through the changes they’re navigating. We have worked hard to ensure that we understand the nuances of our core coaching competencies. We set out the foundations from which we know we can co-create a safe working relationship; we are specialists in the art of active listening, powerful questioning and direct communication through which we facilitate learning and results for our clients.
We know that the brain has one guiding principle; to minimise danger and maximise reward and we understand the neuroscience that brings that principle to life. We empower our clients to find their purpose and in doing so, maximise their rewards.
As Carl Jung says, ‘psychoneurosis must be understood, ultimately, as the suffering of a soul which has not discovered its meaning.’
It is our purpose in life to enable that understanding through coaching. We are there for our clients and because of the people we are, we step up and help others whenever we can.
We are known for being the person that others’ turn to for help.
With all of this knowledge, experience and understanding, we should be able to see the world through a lens of trust and transparency, while managing our own personal development effectively, shouldn’t we?
Or, should we know only too well that having found our purpose, we understand the need to be vulnerable and lead by example in asking for help when we need it?
I found that as a direct result of my own coaching journey I became more trusting. After experiencing a significant bereavement, I worked through the ensuing emotions and channelled them into my desire to help others. My overriding mantra was ‘how do you want to be remembered?’ and my responses always centred on the theme of kindness.
Kindness and vulnerability are intrinsically linked and Brene Brown states in her book, The Gifts of Imperfection; ‘staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.’
Despite our own pain when we’re facing challenges, and maybe because of it, we still want to experience connection through our coaching practice, help others and give back.
When we’re vulnerable, there’s an added risk that we won’t see the signs that someone is taking advantage, that we’re over-giving or that we’re not stepping into our own power.
It is easy to question ourselves at times like this, wondering why we didn’t see the events unfolding or why our communication skills didn’t give us a prior warning. We are only human and it’s thanks to the skills that we have developed that we know when to ask for help and we can identify chinks in our armour that need some attention.
Kindness and vulnerability are still at the heart of my work and my experience taught me that my soft power is actually my strength. My intuition was fine-tuned as a result and it enabled further learning about personality archetypes which significantly enhanced my ability to master my power in a way that helped me and in turn, my clients.
Our experiences shape who we are and we have a responsibility to lead by example and live our core competencies as we learn from our experiences. Continual learning and development helps us in every aspect of our lives and you can join me to find out how you can master your own power and live the answer to the question; how do you want to be remembered?
Mastering Your Power is a two-day, in-person, workshop recognised by the International Coaching Federation as 12.5 hours of Continuing Coach Education (CCE).